For those of you who don't know the details of who I am or whatnot, let me preface this with a simple "I've been through a lot of crap". Hopefully that will suffice somewhat for now.
I've had this discussion with a handful of people in my life recently and I really think some people have an skewed perspective on the word "management". Okay, I admit it, I have a temper. Walk a mile in my shoes and then, besides being a mile away and me being barefoot, see how you act. Frankly, I am a bit tired of hearing from some "fair weather" individuals in regards to my temper.
You should know that I don't randomly assault people in fits of rage. In fact, I have a very strong stance against violence when I am angry. If that sounds a bit off to you, you're paying attention. I am not saying I never resort to violence. I am saying that I do not let myself traverse that path when under the sway of anger. I'll fight in defense of myself or someone I care about, but I would prefer to be in control emotionally when doing so.
So what's all the fuss with the "anger management" crap? Well, I think the easiest way to sum things up is pretty much the same way I sum it up for people who waggle their fingers at me when telling me I need to "control my temper". If I've had a day where I feel particularly ill and/or have been in an inordinate amount of pain and I lash out at the nearest inanimate object, I AM managing my anger. How so? Well, did I kill the person in the room with me? No. Anger managed. Did I tear the hood off the car of the twit who opts to honk his horn at 6am, several times, rather than get out of his car and knock on the door of whoever it is he has come to pick up? No. Anger managed.
While I understand some people find it offensive or disruptive to be around someone who may be venting, I do let people know well ahead of time that I may be in that state. However, for the love of all that's good on this planet STOP telling me to "manage" my anger when I kick a pillow across the room. No one got hurt. Given what I've dealt with in the last 10 years I should probably be a bloody war criminal. Kicking a pillow and cussing like Yosemite Sam is pretty tempered if you ask me.
Anger "removal" and anger "management" are two wholly different things. Please learn that before you cast a stone. Fair enough?
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